Posts Tagged ‘repentance’


November 15, 2010 2 comments

I would first like to start by saying I’m soooo sorry I disappeared for ages, I’ve been trying to fix my life (educationwise). I pray God helps me to be able to balance everything but thank you Seeker for holding the fort 🙂 Anyways…..The topic I’d like to speak on today is one that God has laid on my heart for quite a while and it’s something I thought didn’t apply to me until a few months ago. I’ve always found it easy to get over things, I couldn’t really stay mad at people for long- too much effort, or so I thought. In my daily devotional I came across an article about ‘forgiveness’ and I realised that I’d been holding on to something for much longer than I should have. I feel that many of us my have consciously chosen not to forgive, while others, unknown to them, may be holding on to something against someone and not know. I pray God uses this article to speak to each and every one of us.

So first of all what is ‘Unforgiveness’? Well the dictionary says that It’s ‘to feel resentment against (an offender)’. This true but it’s also more than that, according to God it is, in not so many words, a kind of sin or sinful also because it keeps us bound and keeps us away from Him. It is probably to most common sin amongst Christians. The bible says “If ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matt 6:14-15). So in a sense your unforgiveness is keeping you away from God. Unforgiveness can affect our spiritual walk with God for various reasons (I will outline below). It may be that your spiritual growth is being stunted by it.

So why is unforgiveness so bad? After all you’re not hearting anyone…WRONG! You’re hearting yourself! This is because unforgiveness makes space for the devil to do his work. In 2 Corinthians 2:10-11 it says “10 If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven—if there was anything to forgive—I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, 11in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.” Anything that give the satan a footing in your life should be steered clear of. Think about it, the Bible tells us that satan’s aims are to ‘steal to kill and to destroy’. He’ll use it to weigh your heart down, he’ll use it to slow your spiritual walk down and eventually he’ll use it to destroy you. Every time you remember what that person did to you, you’ll start crying, or you’ll get angry and these things take its toll on one. It’s like a wound that stays open and if not treated it just gets infected and worsens, who’s suffering more, the one who caused the wound or the one who refuses to treat their wound?!

Unforgiveness goes against Jesus’ greatest instruction to us, LOVE! In 1 Corinthians 13 we see the Characteristics of love on of which is love ‘does not keep a record of wrongs’. In  other words it forgives, Love doesn’t say things like ‘….like the time you did this to me…’ As children of God we must Love so how can you love and hate at the same time, they are absolutely opposite and therefore cannot co-exist. The Bible points out that ‘Hatred stirs up contentions, but love covers all transgressions.’ Proverbs 10: 12. Forgiveness is required! God has pardoned us from the greatest of sins and yet we have the audacity to hold something against someone else. Matt 6:12 says “Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors”. If God has forgiven them then who are you to hold it against them?! We as Christians must practice what we preach, our test of love is not towards those who have blessed us but it’s towards those who have truly hurt us. That’s when we can practice what we preach.

“Be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Eph. 4:32).

So how do we know when we’ve truly forgiven someone? Well this question is easier to answer after you understand what it means to forgive.

1) Forgiveness, especially when we are heart by those we love the most, takes time. It’s not something God expects us to do in a single breath (as He did for us) but it’s something that we have to work at. However the fact that it takes time is not an excuse for us to harbour unforgiveness, we should be making every effort to move forward and submit it to God who can help us. In our own strength it may not be possible but with God it most definitely is.

2) Forgiveness requires us to give up our ‘right’ to even the score! In Romans 12:19 “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. This goes against everything this world teaches us. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying ‘Don’t get mad, get even’. I remember in year 1 my teacher told us that if someone hits you, don’t come to me, hit them back! To be fair that’s probably an extreme case hence why the school is now closed down LOL! But you catch my drift, forgiveness requires us to leave things to God to sort it out His way.

3) Forgiving is not the same as forgetting. That is a common misconception amongst people probably thanks to that saying ‘forgive and forget’. It was probably made by some overly cheery, head-in-the-clouds, unrealistic, self righteous individual who’s never had to actually practice what they preach! The more you try to erase the memory the sharper it will probably get. The aim of forgiveness is to purge the poison from the memory so the few times that you may remember it won’t bring you pain.

I know that forgiveness is easier said than done but it’s something that’s good for us. My advice is that we should all check our hearts for any unforgiveness and if we find any, ask God to help you to let go what of it. If you put your faith in God He won’t let you down. I see unforgiveness like an iron weight attached to your leg when you’re trying to run the race of life, whether you’re strong or not, it’s most defineately going to have an effect on your pace. So don’t let it!

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Stay Blessed


Sinceress xx